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Adult Asperger’s Video 6. Living in a Bubble – How to Tell People

Anthony King — Wed, 11 Oct 2023 11:42:53 +0000

Adult Asperger’s Video 6. Living in a Bubble – How to Tell People

My name’s Anthony King and welcome back to my video series about mild autism spectrum disorder in adults based on my book “Living in a Bubble”. Let’s continue from where we left off in our last video together…

How to Tell People

As a follow-on from our previous time together, I felt the need to show you how best to let those around you know of your diagnosis – because it’s not always easy. There is a saying, “You can’t unring the bell” and it means that once it’s out, it’s out. If I could go back in time I would do things differently. I hope you can learn from my mistakes. If you suspect that you have ASD then there is no real need to tell anybody, except your partner or parents and I’d suggest you keep it as quiet as possible until you know. Once your diagnosis has been confirmed it’s very important to think objectively and consider the impact any disclosure might have. When you find out about your diagnosis, you might feel excitement at finding an answer to a whole lifetime of confusion and questions. So, you’d think that the most obvious thing would be to tell everybody. Well, in theory, I wish this were true. However, you need to protect yourself at this vulnerable time. You’d expect people to be happy for you and non-judgemental and helpful, but the reality might be quite different. You need to first prepare yourself to be exposed to some disgraceful, hurtful and inappropriate comments. The world is full of wonderful people and it’s also full of ignorant, evil and stupid people. You need to really think this through and do it in a controlled way which safeguards and respects your emotional wellbeing and works for your own advantage. This will be a very emotional time and you don’t need to add potentially avoidable problems. Realistically you need to accept that some people will be uncomfortable with the disclosure. This comes from within them. You may notice that they treat you differently. This can go both ways. For example, my work colleague and another individual I worked with treated me amazingly well! I saw the most positive way they changed towards me. They were more accommodating and sensitive towards me and it really helped me in a tough time. It’s almost like they gave me a little bit more leeway and that really helped me. On the other hand, people may tell you to your face that it makes no difference but still alter their behaviour towards you. Some people will label you and you need to consider this before exposing yourself to it… you need to be ready!

Who to tell

I think you should tell who you want but just make sure you understand the consequences of doing so. Some people will tell everybody and others will only tell close friends and family. It depends on you. You probably want to tell your close friends and family. I would suggest that you tell your immediate managerial colleagues because they might need to make adjustments in the work environment that can really benefit you. There is no need to tell your other colleagues right away because, what will you gain? Consider waiting for your emotions to settle down and then making an informed decision. There may be very real negative connotations and implications, from bullying to discrimination, so go slowly and consult with close friends and family. Ultimately, do what you feel is right and comfortable for you after considering the options carefully.

What to say

You could tell people directly with the words “I’ve been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder” or in any way you feel comfortable. Remember, that they probably won’t know what it is so you might need to have a follow up explanation. Have something short prepared. Another thing is to be prepared to hear some crazy things. It will often start with “you don’t have that” or “you don’t look like you have it”. Remember, that often they are just saying words without fully engaging their brains; they feel compelled to say something. It would often be better for them to say nothing but unfortunately that usually is not the case.

When to tell

If you are working in an official capacity, I suggest that you inform your employer as soon as you can. You might want to do so via an email. I think this is a great way because it cuts out any potential awkwardness and gives them time to consider the email and respond appropriately. It also gives you a chance to construct an email that you are comfortable with. Do not under any circumstances use Facebook or social media. It should be a face to face meeting or another way which emphasises the seriousness of the situation i.e. they should listen to what you are saying in a respectful manner and give you an appropriate thoughtful response. Another thing to consider is that you are protecting yourself by telling your employer in case of an incident down the line. Tell them in advance in the right way so that you can be sure that they understand and the message has got through. Family members and friends may indeed not respond in a way that you anticipate. They might inadvertently be rude. Many were to me without realising it. Expect no apology because they “know not what they say”, in the words of a very wise man.

Why I am telling and what to expect

Ultimately, this is such an important question. Think about this before you tell them. What are you expecting them to say? Do you want comfort? Do you want understanding? Do you want empathy? Do you want a change of behaviour? Do you want their acceptance? Do you want their support? Have you considered that you might not get these things? You can’t force somebody to respond in a certain way. You must consider these questions because you will probably be let down by a lot of people who you’d not expected, unfortunately. This is the moment where you need to connect with your inner strength. It will be hard but it’s easier if prepared.

Crazy reactions

When you can’t see it on the outside, is it real? This is the way some people think, so expect odd reactions and insensitivity by some people. Some people just don’t know how to act appropriately and in a respectful manner – it’s got nothing to do with ASD or anything else. Don’t take it personally – just be prepared.

Positive reactions

When I told my friend, Nicky, she just listened. She was perfect. She said she would go home and educate herself about it. This was wonderful. No unnecessary words or foolishness. Simon, my best friend, just said that he was with me as did many others. Natasha works in schools and knew exactly what to say. Others said, “Thank you for trusting me with this”. I’m so impressed by these people. It says a lot about them. I’m grateful to them. In the tough times you see who your real friends are and in my tough time, these people stood tall and it is my privilege to know them.

Thank you for joining me today. We’ll continue with more in our next video. See you then.

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ANTHONY KING FEATURED DOUBLE PAGE SPREAD LONDON LITE!

Anthony King — Sat, 23 Sep 2023 22:43:39 +0000

THRILLER MOVES TO KEEP YOU FIT

As jacko turns 50, celebrate by learning his famous dances – you just can’t beat it!

By Elizabeth McMahon

It’s impossible to deny Michael Jackson’s contribution to music. He moonwalked into the world 50 years ago and although his tunes may not have healed the place, they have certainly improved it for pop fans. He has chosen to celebrate his half century by releasing King of pop, a new album of his best work. Across the world, people voted for their all time favourite Jackson hits and each country has its own unique album according to what the fans there chose.

But how should one personally commemorate such an occasion? Why, by attending Anthony King’s Michael Jackson Style Dance class at Pineapple Studios, of course. King is a celebrity choreographer who specialises in Jacko. He has also written a book and released a DVD. Anthony King’s Thriller Dance Workout. So my hopes were high – would my cellulite take a leaf out of Michael’s book and Beat it?

When I met Anthony I learned the reason for his interest in MJ: his stepbrother worked for Jackson, so while we were all practising that famous “Hee-Hee” move in our bedrooms, he was watching it for real. It was clear from our initial handshake that Anthony King has a passion for dance. He is dynamic, enthusiastic and charismatic. His favourite MJ song is Wanna be starting somethin’ – and I certainly had high hopes this class would be the start of something special for this Jacko-lover.

THE CLASS

PINEAPPLE dance studios fits perfectly with the required Eighties ambience – it’s brimming with loose-limbed, energetic types in legwarmers. I felt like I’d stepped into an episode of Fame. There were around 20 of us in the studio – a good turnout for a Wednesday night – and we all immediately felt included as Anthony made a point of addressing us all personally. We warmed up with some intense jogging on the spot. Watching my thighs jiggle in the mirror was not much of a treat but it got the blood flowing. The overall routine was based on Beat it but Anthony said that every class is different so, if you go regularly, you will be treated to an array of hits. I was milding disappointed, having dreamed of learning the moves to Michael Jackson dance and Learn how to dance like a zombie Michael Jackson Style to Thriller, but was already hooked and vowed to come back.

THE ROUTINE

WE SLOWLY and carefully built up an intricate routine over the hour. Anthony took the time to explain each section, demontrating what he meant in front of the class and then giving us the opportunity to practice before we attempted to put it to the music. This was all well and good for those with some semblance of rhythm, but I had difficulties with my motor skills as the moves became progressively more complex.

But even though I was much less coordinated than most I still felt pretty damn good as we bounced around to the infectious beat. Even if you are exceptionally inept, it is impossible not to enjoy yourself. By the end of the class, I was sweaty and exhilarated. I had even kind of mastered the routine in my own special way.

BENEFITS

ANTHONY believes that dance allows you to gain a physical and psychological high very quickly. I can certainly vouch for that: his high energy class really did get us all going – there were even a few Michael-style yelps from the more enthusiatic among us. Dance movements are multidirectional and therefore good for your joints, while the weightbearing moves can improve bone density. And if you really go for it, you can burn up to 500 calories in one session. Dancing is also good for balance and agility and the whole process helps to flush out toxins and alleviates stress. Regular participation can reduce your heart rate, lower blood and improve cholesterol levels. You can’t really argue with all of that, can you? Learning how to dance like Michael Jackson and watch and learn more Michael Jackson Dance Moves I know that I felt full of beans as I left the studios – in fact I got a few funny looks as I practised my moves on the way home.

VERDICT

IF YOUR’RE looking for an entertaining way to burn calories and love all things MJ then this class is perfect for you. It is not pretentious or intimidating – no one takes anything too seriously apart, of course, from the music. So did I fullfill my need to celebrate Jacko’s 50th Definetely. Michael Jackson Moves. Was I any good? Hmm. When asked his thoughts on the white- gloved one, Bob Geldof famously said: “When Michael Jackson sings, it’s with the voice of angels and when his feet move, you can see god dancing”. I would like to say that I exhibited similar qualities but if I did, i would be telling atrocious porky pies.

London Lite, Anthony King review by Elizabeth McMahon

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ELLE GIRL MAGAZINE FEATURE ANTHONY KING AS THEIR ‘NEXT BIG THING!’

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 14:06:02 +0000

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ANTHONY KING COLLABORATES WITH MORE MAGAZINE!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 14:04:31 +0000

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ANTHONY KING FEATURES IN LONDON GUARDIAN AND OTHER UK MEDIA!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 14:02:18 +0000

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ANTHONY KING AND CNN INTERNATIONAL!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 13:54:22 +0000

Learn to Dance like Michael Jackson!

Anthony King’s Thriller Dance Workout DVD/Download

Two full MICHAEL JACKSON Style dance class routines with the classic moves plus additional lessons: Learn the MOONWALK, Learn the SIDE SLIDE, Learn the CIRCLE SLIDE. Special features include Anthony King’s demonstration Michael Jackson dance videos in London, special video clips, Reverse angle chapters, behind the scenes, interactive motion menus and much more!

DANCE LIKE THE KING OF POP!

Learn how to moonwalk with “Anthony King’s Thriller Dance Workout DVD”, learn how to dance like the man himself! For the first time on DVD, YOU can learn to dance in the style of the Michael Jackson, the King of Pop! If you’ve always wanted to impress your friends with your moves on the Dance floor, now’s your chance!

FEATURING THE MOONWALK!

This is the DVD for the person who’s dreamt of dancing of mastering Michael Jackson dance moves has wished of being free and able to DANCE but has never had the courage, the time or the right teacher… NOW is the time to do it!

THE BADDEST DANCE WORKOUT!

Anthony King’s fun and down to earth teaching style is designed for all levels, so you won’t feel left behind!

LEARN THE SLIDES FROM THE STREETS

For the first time ever on DVD, you can see the show stopping

Moonwalk
Sideslide
Circle Slides

2 full routines

all broken down!

YOU will learn the classic slides made famous by the King of pop. Anthony will demonstrate each move for YOU and then break them down into simple step by step sections focusing on different areas of the feet, legs and upper body. Multiple camera angles make learning even easier. Anthony will teach YOU the tips and tricks to make learning the moves so easy you’ll be pulling them off faster than you ever thought possible!

MULTIPLE CAMERA ANGLES

THIS is a different kind of dance experience! This DVD focuses on you! Specially presented so that you can learn the moves simply and without confusion! Each of the slides is shown at 3 different angles and we bring you the DOUBLE FLIP SCREEN mode, where you can watch the routines and learn from the front as well as the back simultaneously, specifically designed to enhance YOUR learning.

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NME MAGAZINE FEATURE ANTHONY KING!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 13:49:11 +0000

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ARAB NEWS FEATURE ANTHONY KING’S NEW BOOK: ‘MICHAEL JACKSON & CLASSICAL MUSIC!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 13:46:29 +0000

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WIZZ AIRLINE FEATURE ANTHONY KING IN THEIR INFLIGHT MAGAZINE!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 13:44:16 +0000

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MIDDLE EASTS NUMBER ONE NEWSPAPER ASHARQ AL AWSAT FEATURE ANTHONY KING IN FULL PAGE SPREAD!

Anthony King — Fri, 22 Sep 2023 13:41:52 +0000

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