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Directing your Energy
It’s very important to evaluate yourself and your energy consumption. I am not talking about your calorie intake here. This is going to be a short chapter but an extremely important one. If you don’t eat your full quota of calories then you will be running a calorie deficit. This means that you will lose weight. It also means that you will feel tired, run down and not completely efficient. The same goes for your social interactions. In fact, it goes for every single interaction of your life and not just the people you know. You can exert energy in people and situations which are a complete waste of your time and life force. Considering that you have limited time on earth and also have limited energy, it’s important that you focus that energy into goals and people that are useful. It’s also important that it is directed in people and situations that are healthy for you. Including where you consciously want it. It’s very easy to waste your energy and actually have it ‘stolen’. We all are aware of the term ‘energy vampires’ and we are told that at least one in twenty people are psychopaths. So that means that 5% of the people that you meet will be inclined to ‘suck you dry’, energetically and emotionally speaking. However, I suspect that the number is much higher than that. So it’s important to be aware and to only direct your precious energy where you want it to go. It is very possible that when you analyse the interactions in your own life, you may realise that your ‘friends’ are actually harmful to you and completely non aligned with your goals, philosophy and energy. They may hinder and harm you more than help. Ironically, this determination can sometimes be clouded due to our emotional connection to the said people. This means that the people closest to you are the hardest to accurately ‘judge’ since we are often blinded by an emotional attachment and rationalise unhealthy behaviour of those close to us. In other words, it’s important that you look at your relationships and make a determination as to whether the energy you put into them is appreciated or a hindrance to you. That means friends and acquaintances. Bear this in mind and guard your inner space and only allow it to be occupied by trustworthy deserving people. The way to determine this is to analyse your interactions and relationships logically. It’s better to do this sooner rather than later because you may find that you realise that the people around you are holding you back, a little bit too late! Another thing to look out for is that if somebody is sitting in a dark room for a long period of time and you walk in and turn on a bright light and illuminate the whole room, then it will not be a comfortable experience for the occupant. It will probably hurt their eyes and they will usually run to turn off the light and shut it down. This example can also be taken literally. Sometimes your light will not be appreciated by those around you and will be shut down with negativity. Ironically, because we don’t have something to judge against, sometimes we don’t realise what’s happening until we are old or it’s too late to take evasive action. These are very important principles. You want to save your energy for those moments in life when you need it. There will be moments where you need to psych yourself up and give all you have to give to achieve a goal and to push yourself beyond your usual limits. You will need the energy to do so and if you have wasted it and depleted it on energy vampires and interactions that are draining, you will not succeed as you should.